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October 28th, 2010 · 2 Comments

   Take Joy in Being Better

When a person regrets wrongdoings, this is not a contradiction to the pre-existing obligation to be happy. Why? Because he should feel joy that he has merited to recognize the truth and is now repenting!

 
You shall rebuke your friend (Leviticus 19:17).
Rabbi Abraham J Twersky
 

A famous maggid (preacher) once visited Rabbi Chaim of Sanz. Rabbi Chaim complained to him that since he was a Rebbe, a leader, no one ever rebuked him for anything. He asked the maggid to please tell him where he could improve himself.

The maggid remarked that he was surprised that Rabbi Chaim’s house did not have the requisite square cubit of unfinished wall space that one is to leave as a reminder of the ruin of the Temple. Rabbi Chaim promptly arose and scraped the paint off an area of the wall, deeply thanking the maggid for calling his attention to this delinquency.

We are often unable to see our own faults. Still, most people dislike rebuke. Even if they are not frankly offended by someone else pointing out their imperfections, they are rarely grateful for being reprimanded. Knowing that we might react defensively, people who note our mistakes and are in a position to rebuke us will be reluctant to provoke us. We should actively encourage them, as Rabbi Chaim did, for we can learn from their observations, eliminate our character defects, and thereby better ourselves.

 Today I shall …
… try to encourage others to tell me what I might be doing that they consider wrong, and be sincerely grateful to anyone who provides constructive criticism.

 Discuss Growth With Others

Rabbi Zelig Pliskin

 

Our thinking is shaped and corrected only through the exchange of thoughts with others. To sharpen yourself, communicate with friends who are striving toward the same goals. An intellect which depends entirely upon itself is prone to stagnation, fantasies or erroneous ideas.
(Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch – Wisdom of Mishlei, p.183; Rabbi Pliskin’s Gateway to Happiness, p.135)

REPEATED  for your benifit:

   Take Joy in Being Better:  When a person regrets wrongdoings, this is not a contradiction to the pre-existing obligation to be happy. Why? Because he should feel joy that he has merited to recognize the truth and is now repenting!

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  • 1 Sidney // Nov 24, 2010 at 9:43 am

    Great Post on the Great rabbi Soloveitchik!
    Ironic I never considered thanksgiving one way or another,I would have thought on my own it was a goyishe holiday we Jews have nothing in common with,until I saw the Halachic reading from Rabbi Soloveitchik that I totally trust his opinions on. Thanks for running the article, it was definitely informative. Thanks Dacon for the blog..and the information you outreach to us..Please keep that up!
    Sid

  • 2 DACON9 // Nov 24, 2010 at 6:54 pm

    THANK YOU, SPREAD THE WORD. I HOPE YOU NOTICED THAT I DO NOT HAVE ANY ADVERTISEMENTS.I do this for pleasure IN SPREADING A LITTLE CLOSENESS TO TORAH and not for money. Dacon9 (David)

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